It’s no surprise that men and women are wired differently when it comes to relationships and marriage, but it’s not as different as we think. It’s not that men do NOT want to get married, it’s that they don’t want to marry someone just because they are a certain age, nor are worried what others will say.
Their eyes will always wander, as visual temptation is their weakness, and how far they want to take that is their choice. But most men that I spoke to said they want to get married, and they will not settle until they find a woman who has that ONE thing
1. She embraces my vulnerabilities.
“I knew I wanted to marry my girlfriend when she took the time to learn everything that makes me vulnerable, while giving me the greatest sense of security. I could trust her with all my emotions. That’s huge!” —Thando, 32
2. She’s my number one support system.
“I want to marry a girl who can make the relationship her priority, and want to be my primary support person.” —Damien, 26
3. She makes me genuinely happy — and others can tell.
“In case of my girlfriend, I would say that my family and friends tell me that I look a lot happier. Not that I wasn’t before, but there’s something extraordinary about this relationship that is clearly noticeable to those who know me well. She makes me happy.” —Vusi 35
4. She’s perfect wife/mother material.
“Being with her lets me know that she wants to have kids and that she would be a good mom.” —Fikile, 29
5. She never gives up on us.
“Most women want to be with a man who is already established and financially stable. I want to marry a strong woman who will be a part of my struggle, never gives up on us, and is a part of my life in the good as well as the bad times.” —Khamo, 36
6. She had a good upbringing.
“Her upbringing is very important — the way her family raised her is a vital part of me wanting to marry her because it moulds her for life.” —Tebelo, 35
7. She supports my goals and ambitions.
“I’d like to marry a girl who is similar to me and supports me even if we have different goals. At the end of the day, knowing that we are there for each other is the most important thing.” —Phil, 25
8.She’s who I want to wake up to every morning.
“If I look forward to going to bed with her and waking next to her in the morning, that is when I know I want to marry her.”–Dumi, 27