Here is a situation many women have experienced. You meet a guy and feel the proverbial spark. Numbers are exchanged, flirty texting ensues, and eventually you go on a date…and it’s amazing!
The chemistry is strong, you connect, you have fun. You go out again and it’s another ace in the hole. Now you start to get really excited…could this be it?Then he starts to pull away and seems less engaged (commonly known as “the fade away”), or he just vanishes (a phenomenon known as “ghosting”). You feel really low and shocked and constantly ask yourself. “What went wrong?”
Here is why this situation is so confusing for most women. When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason. She usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked.
It’s not always like this for guys. A guy can go on a few amazing dates with a girl and find himself suddenly put off by her without explanation.
So why does this happen? Is it really out of the blue without cause?
Thing is, you begin interacting with the thoughts in your head rather than with the guy in front of you. Rather than trying to learn who he is and what he’s about, you look at his behavior and the things he says as a means to measure how he feels about you… and whether you’re getting closer or further away from your goal of having a relationship with him.
Most guys can intuitively sense when a woman is reacting to them as an object rather than a person, when she is using him as a means to fill a void within herself.
Once guys sense desperation, attention seeking and neediness they start running. It doesn’t matter you’re beautiful, intelligent or good in bed. A guy won’t stick around to cater for your insecurities.
That’s just the way it is.